Next Saturday I am getting married. Next Saturday! It’s crazy! I got engaged a year ago and it’s been a lot of small details and planning since then. I have had to deal with way more people than I ever wanted to, I had to deal with a lot of mistakes, ups and downs, and unexpected craziness to say the least. With only 8 days until the wedding, I feel as if my head may pop off.
I do not know how many times people have said, “Oh, you must be enjoying the engagement process… you and your fiancé can just relax until the wedding and enjoy one another.” Every time I hear that, I want to say, “In what reality are you living?” Planning a wedding is far from relaxing- it’s a stress test. Sure, there are some fun times- like the crafts you get to make, the bachelorette party, and the shower- but in between those events comes a lot of picking and choosing and making sure everything is in order.
If there is one thing I learned through out this whole process, it would be how to let other brides know how to manage their stress levels leading up to their wedding. It took me until this week, a week before of the wedding, to figure this one out- so get ready ladies…
My Stress Management Tips for the Bride-to-Be:
- Be Silly– This wedding planning stuff can be very serious. Typically families expect a lot and expect the day to be planned perfectly, bringing a lot of stress on the bride. When you get home from a long day of planning- act silly. Let it all go- start tickle fights with your fiancé, tell bad dad jokes to your family members, do something that would encourage laughter.
- Stretch– Most times, people make the suggestion to exercise if you are stressed out- I recommend stretching. When it comes to my life, pairing wedding planning with a sit down office job makes even more stress. When I get home, I force myself to stretch for 15 minutes. I focus on different parts of my body, starting with the legs and inner thigh muscles, then move to my shoulders, arms, and back muscles. By the time I am done, my body naturally relaxed itself.
- Write It Out– Have you noticed that I have blogged a bit more than usual this week? It’s because I have been feeling the heat with planning the wedding. Writing makes me feel relaxed and composed. If writing isn’t your thing, maybe singing, playing an instrument, painting, or reading would be your solution.
- Schedule “Me” Time– When you are so focused on planning an event, you almost forget to give yourself some attention. Take time out of your week for just yourself- take a bubble bath, paint your nails, stick your nose in a good book and get lost in it, watch one of your favorite TV shows (I watched Gilmore Girls this week and vegged on the couch), or go for a walk.
All these things may seem simple, but they truly do help you cope with the changes going on around you. They help you to be able to see things more clearly and help give you an appreciation for the work you have been doing.
To all the brides out there about to pull your hair out- don’t worry, you can do this!